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Supporting a Child
Who Is Being Bullied.
A person is bullied when they are intentionally exposed, regularly and over time, to negative or harmful actions by one or more other people. Bullies are people who deliberately set out to intimidate, exclude, threaten and/or hurt others repeatedly. Bullying is a clear form of harassment.
Bullying is not just a problem for the victim, it is also a problem
for the school. At Ardtornish P.S we have an Anti-Bullying Policy (click to download) and we work hard to ensure students feel safe and are
empowered to report problems but still there is always a degree of bullying
that can go unreported.
CHILDREN WHO ARE BULLIED
Children who bully sometimes pick on just anyone, and sometimes
choose other children who seem to be easy to hurt: They may pick on
Occasionally children provoke other children to bully them by teasing first.
- look or are different in some way
- are stressed, either at home or at school
- have a disability
- struggle with school work
- are not good at sport
- lack social confidence
- are anxious
- are unable to hold their own because of being smaller or weaker or younger.
SIGNS OF BEING BULLIED
Children who are being bullied may not always tell adults. They
may be afraid or ashamed. Some signs of being bullied may be:
not wanting to go to school
finding excuses for not going to school, eg feeling sick
wanting to go to school a different way to avoid the children
who are bullying them
being very tense, tearful and unhappy after school
talking about hating school
bruises or scratches
talking about not having any friends
refusing to tell you about what happens at school.
Your child may show other signs of unhappiness as well eg problems
with sleeping. These signs may not necessarily mean being bullied but
you need to check out what is worrying your child.
WHAT PARENTS CAN DO
Listen to your child and take his/her feelings and fears
Try not to take everything into your own hands, unless it is
absolutely necessary, because this is likely to make your child
feel less in control.
Help your child to work out what ideas he/she has about coping
with the problem. Write them down. Include a few of your own if
needed to get started. Then talk with him/her about which ones
might help or not help and why. Choose an idea that he/she would
like to try and then check out how it works.
- Don't call your child names eg "weak" or "a sook" and don't
let anyone else do so.
If the bullying is verbal teasing, you may be able to help
your child learn to ignore it, so the child who is doing it does
not get any satisfaction out of it. You could practise at home
ways to help your child gain confidence eg the way to walk past
with his/her head up.
Help your child think of ways to avoid the situation eg by
going a different way home, or staying with a group.
Some children are helped by imagining a special wall around
them which protects them so that the hard words bounce off.
Work on building your child's confidence in things he/she does
If you suspect your child is being bullied TALK to us at the
When bullying happens at school you will need to talk to us about it.
Ardtornish P.S.has as a policy and clear procedures for dealing with bullying.
Make a list of the things that have happened to your child. Be
clear about his/her suffering. Be prepared to name the children
who bully. If bullying persists, write down WHO, WHAT, WHERE and
Talk to our school Principal or Deputy Principal, about the school's way of dealing with
bullying and what steps they take to prevent it and protect children from
Talk to the teacher about what can be done to help your child.
Keep in contact until the problem is sorted out.
Let your child know that bullying is wrong.
Take your child's fears and feelings seriously.
Reassure your child that being bullied is not his/her fault,
and that something can be done about it.
Let your child know that he/she is not the only one who is
bullied. It happens to lots of children.
Help your child as far as possible to work out his/her own
ways of dealing with the problem.
Don't allow the bullying to continue.
Protect your child - involve the school or club or wherever it
- Help your child to feel good about the other things in his/her